So here I am standing in the middle of the fair and we just had an amazing day with my Mom and Paul in Naples, we bought organic ice cream and vegan candies at Adelheidi's Organic Sweets, had a delicious dinner at Rosedale Brick oven and just spent $40 in tickets at the fair (quite an expensive day for us!) and Mathilde is having a fit because she wants to try the darts game (it's a tiny fair, so there is only the air rifle or the darts, neither of which she ever tried and it's $5 each). The thing is, in our house, everything comes in 3, so one try means $15 so each girl can play... and she goes on an on about how other families have money to play and have bracelets and we *never* have money... and I feel sad and frustrated...
Most times, I am quite understanding of my girls desire to have it all. Don't we all have that desire deep down... Most of us never outgrow it, it just takes a different shape than a fair ginormous purple teddy bear... But sometimes, just sometimes, I think...
A little volunteering in a third world country maybe?
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Theophane ici m'a sorti: ets-ce qu'on est pauvres? parce qu'en suisse tout le monde a de grosses voitures flambant et nous une volvo wagon d'occas. Alors on a parle de ce sur quoi on choisit de depenser des sous, travailler moins etc..petit a petit..en attendant il a de gros desirs et alors je pense fort a sandra dodd qui disait de ne pas faire l'economie du Veux/veux pas qd on assert un choix. (vs je ne peux pas, c pas possible).
je t'embrasse!
Intéressant, Isa! Est-ce qu'on est pauvre? On aimerait tellement pouvoir entrer dans leur tête parfois!
You know that if you give them that ride, they'll want another - it's just the nature of any human beings. And yet, you can't live with just the wanting, and not the satisfaction. It's a difficult situation when you're a child, and the world around you seems to play by different rules. As with anything in life, it comes down to balance: you explain over and over why they can't have endless rides (which isn't what they want to know there and then), but do allow them to have some rides, and encourage them to feel grateful (all the while knowing that all they want is more rides, but the concept will, eventually and hopefully, sink in).
Thanks so much for such wise advise, Francesca... I think this is what I did that night (but probably not as gracefully as that...). This is my aim at least... And I sure hope it will sink in one day...
Je peux te dire, que nous avons beaucoup de choses, mais pas ce que vous avez. Un jour elles comprendront... Lâche-pas Catherine.
Merci, Stéphanie! J'ai besoin de l'entendre! Encore une journée comme ça à Key West aujourd'hui!
Nous rappelons souvent à Antoine (qui est trop gâté) qu'il faut faire des choix dans la vie. Et que chaque choix a des conséquences et implications. Plus facile à dire qu'à faire... Je suis bien d'accord. Mais il doit se responsabiliser... Et nous devons tenir notre bout Ed et moi.. Bonne journée. Xxxx
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