Friday, February 10, 2012

Self-care for a travelling mom

My sweet friend Kathy just published her first e-book, The Bliss Filled Mama: Self-Care for Soulful Mothering, (she also includes an MP3 audio version, which I LOVE). Today, she is offering a free copy of her e-book and MP3 audio version to one of my readers! Keep reading and leave a comment to enter the draw! If you have been following her blog, you would know how funny this gal is and how creative too! I knew I could learn a thing or two from her... To be honest, a part of me felt a bit reluctant to read it because I was worried that it would make me feel like I was not taking good care of myself lately, because you know, I am not sewing my own clothes or knitting anything for my twins' upcoming birthday... But you know what? Kathy made me realize that I was in fact filling my own cup differently than I was before (when I was a perfect little Waldorf mom...).

Ok, I know, some of you will say that traveling is in itself self-care, and part of it is true. However, it can also be very intense since you don't have much in terms of help or community. Grandparents are thousands of kilometers away and friends are only reachable through Skype...

Before reading Kathy's book, I felt a bit guilty for not spending much of my time in creative activities, like I used to back home. Maybe because of my Waldorf background, I thought those were really the best way to recharge my vital energy, but what I realized reading her e-book is that the simplest things are also self-care... I don't need to knit solstice hats for my girls (especially here in Costa Rica!!) of sew myself a dress (anyways, I came to the conclusion that sewing makes me more stressed than recharged) to fill my batteries. Actually, whatever I feel like doing when I don't force myself to do something to keep up with the Joneses (or rather in my case the amazingly creative blogging community!) is what naturally recharges me since I gravitate around it! How simple and liberating is that!

So ready or not, and as Kathy says embarrassing or not, here is my list of self-care activities right now :

-Writing (as in blogging)
-Going to the market in Costa Rica
-Reading in the hammock

-Reading inspiring blogs and listening to inspiring YouTube videos
-Drinking the amazing smoothies I make with the delicious Costarican fruits I have access to here
-My morning walks

-Playing in the sea with my family
-Swimming in waterfalls
-Coloring mandalas with my girls

-Living in Costa Rica for 5 months
-Planning more travels with my partner
-Clean sheets
-Discovering a new area of Costa Rica
-Skyping with friends that I dearly miss
-Telling Aesop fables to the girls
-Hearing a toucan or a howler monkey
-Watching the sunset on the beach
-A hug from my amazing partner
-Making coral necklaces with Mathilde

-An outing way too late at night with my girls and partner to have deserts at a local restaurant on full moon night
-Doing less in a day
-Hearing my girls laugh together
-Sunbathing. Every. Single. Day

And just acknowledging that I do some of these things everyday makes me feel more recharged! And when I take care of myself, I am much less stressed out and I can be a better person, a better mom, a better partner... This is a work in progress, friends!

I want to leave you with this wonderful quote from Genevieve, at The way of the Peaceful Parent on Facebook.

"Our children literally resonate with us. They're downloading our state all the time; our emotions, our beliefs, our values. Their stress rises with ours and comes down with ours. When we smile with them, play with them, laugh with them, kindly care for them, the sun shines brightly in their world and starts to melt the cold scared places inside them, their fairytale experience become full of fun, magic and happiness again.

We make conscious choices to manage our stress and anxiety levels, while our children are dependent on the energetic and emotional environments that we create. To tell a child to be reasonable or to calm down while we feel negative towards them, is like telling them to go outside and play while we restrain them tightly.

Not only is it not selfish to care for your emotional needs, to find ways of reducing your stress, to access more support, more comfort, more kindness and empathy for your struggles, these are responsible mature proactive choices that bring more balance and support to your whole family system."

So, to win a copy of Kathy's e-book and MP3 audio version, leave a comment down here telling me what is you favorite self-care activity these days. I will randomly select a winner on Friday, the 17th and announce it here on the blog. To double your chances of winning, write a post on your blog with a list of your favorite self-care activities and link to Kathy's book (don't forget to mention it in your comment here too!).

Je suis désolée à mes lecteurs francophones, mais il s'agit d'un billet annonçant la parution du livre d'une bonne amie qui est en anglais seulement...


Fleur de Paix said...

Wow ! Je suis intéressée ! Suivre les élans de son coeur, c'est tellement précieux !

Fawn said...

Lovely! I'm so glad you've got the opportunity to do so many self-care activities these days.

For my part, I feel that self-care is being rather neglected these days. This is a crazy month I'm finding myself in right now. The best thing I can do is to get to bed at a reasonable time (i.e. earlier than midnight!!), and even earlier than that when I have a cold, as I do today. I went to bed at 9 last night. Best thing I could have done for myself!

Jane said...

What a lovely combination to see two of my favourite blogs connecting (again)! Kathy's e-book looks like it would be really inspiring!

My favorite self-care activity is the yoga class I go to 2x a week. And once the weather gets a wee bit warmer, I will be excited to start running again.

Thanks for sharing your self care activities, Catherine, and for this opportunity!

Francesca said...

I like your list, and I'm so glad that you're finding out more and more, and with more self confidence what speaks to you as an individual. I noticed that at different times of life I've needed different things to recharge my "vital energy" - and that waking up to a sunny spring or summer day is a kind of a bliss in itself. I believe would be a very miserable person if I lived at a northern latitude - no matter how much hammock time I got :)

Catherine said...

Thanks, friends! That's great to hear from you! I will add your name to the draw!